Dementia and COPD

The best thing for you to do is to talk to a medical professional that understands the situation and can guide you on how to treat and help you husband daily. This site has online therapists, very professional and nice people. Wishing you all well. God bless you.

Brenda,
I am so sorry for you. There is not much you can do but hang in there. What a long and horrible disease this is. There are other people in your same position, you are not alone. Remember to never blame yourself, and also to take care of yourself. Step out for walks if possible, and just breathe. Life throws us such hard things sometimes but you will get through it.

My husband did the same thing. He seemed just fine for doctor visits. His doctor is his old friend and didn't want to hear me when I said he needed help. But he nearly drowned because he forgot how to paddle a float on a lake and I MADE his dear doctor hear me about it. Unfortunately, he has so many other health problems that he cannot take any medications to help with dementia. He survived a very nasty bout with cancer in August, 2009, and things have been really tough since. He refuses his meds, will not cooperate with me on a schedule(We have grandkids in our custody and they go to school.) At times, he will tell me how much he appreciates me taking care of him, but at other times, he tells me to leave him alone. He threatens to pack his stuff and go home.
We built a new home 3 years ago and he still tells me he doesn't want to stay here at these peoples' house; he's ready to go home.
My dad once told me "Life stinks, and then you die..." All I can do is my best, and trust that God, in His infinite wisdom and mercy, will decide it was enough. If we lean on Him, it does become more bearable....