peace but not sure that this really is

Honey-if it is to much you need to find alternate arrangments or at the very least some help to assist in her care. Don't allow your patience to snap and allow this situation to get out of hand. I know you love her, but caring for a loved one with Alzheimers must be extremely challenging, not only is caretaking stressful on its own, but watching someone you love dissapear on a daily basis is heart wrenching. Look into the options available to you and decide what is in both of your best interests.

Hugs-
CK

We are having some of these incidents with my mother-in-law who lives with us now. We are also raising our grandchildren. It is very difficult at times as some of things that she does are very strange. It is much like having another child except that she is 70 and the grandchildren are 4 and 6. She gets snippy with us and the kids. We have talked to the kids about what is happening to her and she is not the same grama that she was 3 months ago. It does seem like there is an issue of some sort every single day that upsets her, whether it be a bath, getting her laundry done, or the food that is cooked.

We are looking into a day program a few days a week to see if that will help her and us to cope a little easier.

Dear Lady in Seattle,
Im sorry you're going through that. It's so easy to say, "Maybe you should start to consider other arrangements." But that is so much easier said than done. Sometimes it's not time for other arrangements, and sometimes you can't afford them... or don't know how to break it to her that she has to leave. My dad has it and he's not bad enough to move into a facility yet (as if we could afford one anyway) but he definitely tries our patience. Important regarding impatience: take time away for yourself. Self-care is really important. Take a walk or make plans with friends- even if you have to lie to her about where you're going. If you are afraid to leave her alone for even an hour, then it probably is time to consider some kind of assisted living. But if not, escape and clear your head. You are important!

can i just offer support for you lay in seattle, as i experinced my grandmother of whom i was extremely close to. my mother became her main carer and my poor mom became drained and also had similar feelings to yourself. it is arguably one of the most emotionally draining and crushing diseases to have to watch a loved one go through. you should make sure you have an outside focus to this situation comletely separate from it as this will help you to unwind away from the emotions. if you ever need to talk, i'll always listen.
corina :) keep looking after yourself also